July 19, 2016

Reflections on the "Busy" Trap

The habit of looking to the future and thinking that the whole meaning of the present lies in what it will bring forth is a pernicious one. There can be no value in the whole unless there is value in the parts. BERTRAND RUSSELL, Conquest of Happiness Tim Kreiders’ New York Times article, The Busy Trap,  generated a lot of buzz back […]
February 10, 2016

Self-Awareness is the Real Teacher

People travel to wonder at the height of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea, at the long courses of rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars; and they pass by themselves without wondering.” St. Augustine Becoming more self-aware is on its way to gaining the social stamp of approval in […]
August 11, 2014

Stop Driving Yourself to Distraction: Reclaiming Your Sanity

“We live in a moment of history where change is so speeded up that we begin to see the present only when it is already disappearing.”   ~ R.D Laing The Scottish psychologist, R.D Laing wrote these prescient words in 1970.  In our work we see an alarming increase of the effects of overwork and overwhelm on our clients.  Many of the […]
October 4, 2012

Impatience and Frustration ~ From the Emotions Series

‘We never live; we are always in the expectation of living.’~ Voltaire  Pick an emotion – any emotion that characterizes how you feel during your workday. When you become aware of what you feel while you work, which emotion do you experience most often? Impatience.  Frustration.  That’s what most people I work with choose.  If you were able to select […]
August 18, 2011

Anxiety & the Quest for Certainty

 “The quest for certainty blocks the search for meaning. Uncertainty is the very condition that impels us to unfold our powers.”    Erich Fromm Most of us would agree that whatever we do, we cannot predict the future. Yet, many of us spend an inordinate amount of time trying to control the uncontrollable.  This is a waste of our time and although […]
July 14, 2011

Be Here NOW – Getting Off Auto-Pilot

What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday, and our present thoughts build our life of tomorrow: Our life is the creation of our mind.” ~ The Buddha (maybe) While the Buddha may have said that over 2,500 years ago, today’s neuroscience is helping us to understand the mind’s complex hard-wired mechanisms with stunning speed. A study, conducted […]
December 30, 2010

Stepping Out of the Time Famine

    “Many of life’s puzzles can be resolved by simply understanding our own time perspectives and those of others.”       Philip Zimbardo, Social Psychologist   This is not a piece about time management. Or resolutions or more productivity. No lists here on ways to squeeze in more task time. Time scarcity isn’t the issue – after all what did you […]
December 30, 2009

Being Patient

Is there a more resourceful, useful and enabling emotion than patience? The act of being patient is most definitely behavioral – and it requires skill. But patience is also a feeling state – one with very specific (and beneficial) physiological markers. When we are patient, our mind is relatively clear. It is the opposite of a confused, jumbled state of thoughts. […]