November 20, 2014

Seeking Human Kindness

Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.” ― David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas Is kindness “compassion in action?” While there are distinctions made between kindness, empathy, compassion and altruism, most people experience kindness as action. With kindness we take our cognitive experience of […]
October 2, 2014

Humility ~ from The Emotions Series

I often write about emotions. In fact, at the heart of my work and this blog, is the effort to illuminate emotional life and provide a space for conversation about feelings.  While many articles focus on specific emotions like, anger, envy, jealously and resentment – and fear, especially fear –  it’s as important to round out the range of human […]
September 25, 2014

What Blocks Our Empathy?

Recently my lack of empathy for someone really surprised me. No matter how I cognitively reframed the subject, I was stuck.  It wasn’t until I became more consciously present to the other feelings  I had about this person – that I was able to soften the picture. I felt uncomfortable with my lack of kindness in this situation and wanted […]
September 4, 2014

How Much Does Fear Motivate Your Choices in Life?

Lately I’ve been reflecting on this question. It’s an important one. Maybe less important when you’re 25 (though I wish I had kept it in the forefront of my mind at that age) but I can’t think how asking it doesn’t reveal what we are hiding, avoiding or displacing at any age. Nearly everywhere I look online I see references […]
July 25, 2014

Knowing What You Really Want

In earlier writings on self-compassion, I asked what I consider to be a core question, Have I loved my life enough? Another way of asking this is – Have I loved myself enough? Either question takes you down the same path. All of life is driven by needs. Needs energize our life, generate motivation and shape the meaning of our experiences. […]
June 12, 2014

10 Steps to More Inner Peace

Lately peace has become a priority for me. When it moved to the top of my list, I can’t say.  In the spirit of questioning priorities, (something we’d all benefit from) I’ve been asking myself some basic questions about the often elusive state I call peace. Since, like many of you, I am not practiced in peace as a way […]
May 29, 2014

Curiousity~the Go-To Emotion (Reprise)

“The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity.  Dorothy Parker I was a really curious kid. How about you? They say all kids (and apparently cats) are curious. Of course that’s true (I mean about the kids, I don’t know enough about cats to make that claim) but I was a very curious kid. I always […]
April 10, 2014

Acceptance ~ Enabling Peace

Acceptance has a bad rap. In cultures where progress and improvement are a constant quest, accepting  what is  seems passive. Those of us who grew up in fix-it, more-is-better cultures still bristle at the idea of  “letting go.” For a long time I justified “arguing with reality” because I told myself I was a passionate, strong-willed person who was driven to make […]
March 27, 2014

Listen, are you breathing just a little and calling it a life?  

Pulitzer Prize winning poet Mary Oliver’s haunting question should become a mantra for life in the 21st century. Seemingly inured to stress, too many of us speed through each day without taking the time to stop and ask – what have I traded a day of my life for today? Jumping on the mindfulness bandwagon dozens of articles still ask, “Can […]