September 1, 2010

Cynicism – The Price We All Pay

“Cynicism is an unproductive reaction to disappointment. It springs from the helplessness people feel when they are disappointed by others and allow themselves to become detached observers rather than active participants. It carries with it a sense of entitlement that says, “You have disappointed me therefore  my cynicism is justified.”        Jamie & Maren Showkeir    Have you become a cynic?  If […]
July 16, 2010

Why Today’s Workplace Needs Emotional Intelligence More Than Ever!

We learn a lot from our clients.  Their insights and experiences are our primary lifeline to what is happening at every level in today’s workplace. And too often, what we hear isn’t pretty. Overworked, overburdened, stressed, exhausted, cynical, pessimistic, untrusting, disengaged, resentful, frustrated, fearful and angry are common descriptions too many people give us. Since we began integrating Emotional Intelligence […]
June 24, 2010

Is Self-Deception Keeping You in the Box?

Have you ever wondered if there was a missing ingredient that could improve your relationships – in the workplace and beyond? Well, it wasn’t until we came across the book, Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box, written by The Arbinger Institute, that we were able to put our finger on an important part of the puzzle.  – Self […]
June 10, 2010

Self Talk – Are You Judging or Coaching?

I once heard someone say that if we overheard a conversation at the next table in a restaurant with people talking to each other the way we talk to ourselves – we’d get up and leave.  Know what I mean? This statement has stayed with me for a long time, especially when I am judging myself harshly or listening to […]
June 3, 2010

Beyond Anger Management – You and Your Anger

“The beliefs we have about anger and the interpretation we give to the experience are as important to its understanding as anything intrinsic to the emotion itself.” Carol Tavris   Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion Anger has been called the “misunderstood emotion.”  Why is that? Seems like we know everything there is to know about anger, don’t we?  While there still is […]
March 4, 2010

The Starting Point for Empathy is You

The Starting Point for Empathy is  YOU   In this series of articles examining empathy, we’ve explored some reasons to consciously act on developing our empathic skills.  In Becoming More Empathic  we looked at some of the ways to remove the obstacles we create in responding empathetically to others.  In this post, we’re going to focus on the most important part of the […]
February 25, 2010

Becoming More Empathetic – (Bringing Down Some of the Barriers)

Most scientists agree that we are born to cooperate with others. In other words, we are born to be more “WE”  than “ME.”  Sometimes we wonder. The mounting research continues to paint a much rosier and more positive picture at least for the potential of a kinder, gentler workplace, society and planet. According to Dr. Thomas Tomasello, author of “Why We […]
February 20, 2010

5 Reasons to Develop Your Empathy

“Empathy is the one weapon in the human repertoire that can rid us of the curse of xenophobia.”              Frans B.M. de Waal, author, The Age of Empathy   Are We Living in The Age of Narcissism or the Age of Empathy? Maybe it’s both. For human beings, both are innate.  Freud believed that narcissism was a normal developmental task […]
February 11, 2010

WHO DO YOU TRUST? And Why It Matters

“Trust is a delicate property of human relationships. It is influenced far more by actions than words. It takes a long time to build, but it can be destroyed very quickly. Even a single action – perhaps misunderstood – can have powerful effects.”   Douglas McGregor, author of the business classic, The Human Side of Enterprise The Wharton School of Business published […]