July 3, 2014

Mindfulness is a Whole Body Experience

“Emotions like grief, fear and despair are as much a part of the human condition as love, awe and joy. Each of these emotions is purposeful and useful-if we know how to listen to them.”     Miriam Greenspan   Intellectually, I know that emotions live in the body. The research demonstrating the mind-body relationship becomes more definitive each year.  But, […]
February 27, 2014

Living with Permanent Uncertainty

Here’s what I have noticed lately ~ more and more people are talking about living in “uncertain” times.  It’s now called, “the new normal.” The anxiety over our predicament of uncertainty appears to be a new discovery. The economic earthquake of 2008/09 rearranged our thinking – and long-held assumptions about the future. We haven’t been the same since; our collective […]
January 23, 2014

How Good is Your Word?

“What I’ve seen today for the first time is unacceptable. I am outraged and deeply saddened to learn that not only was I misled by a member of my staff, but this completely inappropriate and unsanctioned conduct was made without my knowledge.” (New Jersey Governor Christie in his 1st public statement on the “bridgegate” scandal) “We do not market food […]
October 10, 2013

Forgiveness at Work – Cleaning our Emotional House

“Forgiveness is a lovely idea until you have someone to forgive.”  C.S. Lewis I’ve thought a lot about forgiveness lately. Often when we face life’s major passages, a flood of old thoughts and feelings suddenly reappear. But I must admit that I am not at the place where I started when I began to think about the concept of forgiveness for this […]
July 18, 2013

Lie to Me ~ revisited

Some years ago, I wrote a post inspired by– Lie to Me, a popular 2009 TV series. The premise was based on the expertise of a scientist, whose exceptional talent to solve crimes through facial deception detection, caught the “liar” every week.   Easy Hollywood math – clever, gifted sleuth outwits crafty criminals and justice is served – in less than […]
June 27, 2013

Emotional Intelligence ~ 20 Years On ~ Part 2

Continuing the conversation started in Part 1 of this article – several key questions keep surfacing.  One is the often unspoken tension between EI (Emotional Intelligence) and what is typically thought of as “therapy.” For anyone who has been involved in a therapeutic process, it’s immediately clear that learning and applying EI principles is very different from being “in therapy.” […]
May 2, 2013

Mindful Feedback

Most people don’t respond positively to feedback (a.k.a criticism). The expanding knowledge we have about how the brain works is helping us to understand why. Even under the BEST of circumstances, many of us find ourselves recoiling in response to hearing what others think about us.  Our receptivity depends on context, relationships and circumstances – but the greatest factor is […]
November 21, 2012

Creating a Culture of Gratitude in the Workplace – Reprise

As we approach the holiday season, lots of heart-felt stories about kindness and giving start to appear.  Tis’ the season, so to speak.   It’s a time when even the busiest and most cynical among us pause (even if only for a short time) and reflect.   But too often, the feelings of gratitude that the holiday spirit may generate are focused […]
October 11, 2012

People Are Not Direct Reports – How Language Reflects Power

Some of my colleagues may not like this but I have to share one of my pet peeves – use of the term “direct reports.” A quick check of The Dictionary of Corporate Bullshit defines the term as “the junior staffer in a supervisory/employer relationship; a common term for the people “managed” by a particular person that underscores the senior […]