January 1, 2017

More Silence, More Peace

The ancients knew there were many times of the year – and in our lives, that signaled a time to slow down.  These were the hours and days for quiet reflection.  Clearly, those days are over in “modern times.”  The reality of  life today is the amount of time reserved for rest has diminished dramatically. Another “casualty” of modern life […]
August 18, 2016

Seeking Human Kindness

“Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.” ― David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas Is kindness “compassion in action?” While there are distinctions made between kindness, empathy, compassion and altruism, most people experience kindness as action. With kindness we take our cognitive experience of […]
May 5, 2016

Self-Compassion is Just the Beginning

Every so often something I read goes right to the heart of what I need. So it was when I discovered this post by author Katrina Kenison titled, Bucket List  (not a term I use or gravitate towards normally) that contained some wonderful gems and a very important question that resonated with me deeply, “Have I loved my life enough?” Suddenly […]
October 12, 2015

Well-Being is a Skill

Why is so little self-knowledge taught in most schools? Sure, there’s the Life Sciences curriculum where you’ll get some information on anatomy and communicable diseases, but mostly what we learn in school is focused on the externals. With rare exceptions, most children graduate high school with little information about how their bodies, minds and especially their emotions, work. Most of […]
August 11, 2015

Vulnerability is our Common Bond

“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”  Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times   The problem is – we suffer alone. There isn’t a human being that does […]
January 15, 2015

The World Needs More Beauty

When did the world stop needing deeper and more beautiful things? When did we stop believing it was important to create beauty?  Perhaps, “beauty” is the wrong word necessary to focus our highly distracted attention.  Maybe the right word is transcendence? “Transcendence,”  existence or experience beyond the normal or physical level.   You know, the kind of experience that stays with […]
January 2, 2015

The 7 Day Mental Cleanse Diet

The one thing I do know is that most of what I am in control of is my thinking. Everything flows from it. How you approach the mental cleanse is important. In the spirit of lightening up and being easier on yourself, think of the mental cleanse as a vehicle to release persistent unhelpful thoughts especially those that tend towards […]
July 25, 2014

Knowing What You Really Want

In earlier writings on self-compassion, I asked what I consider to be a core question, Have I loved my life enough? Another way of asking this is – Have I loved myself enough? Either question takes you down the same path. All of life is driven by needs. Needs energize our life, generate motivation and shape the meaning of our experiences. […]
February 27, 2014

Living with Permanent Uncertainty

More and more people are talking about living in “uncertain” times.  It’s now called, “the new normal.” The anxiety over our predicament of uncertainty appears to be a new discovery. Our long-held assumptions about the future are being quickly rearranged.  Collectively, our cultures are shifting so fast that we expect to live in an era of uncertainty. Along with the […]